Immense trust is the foundation of a Dominant/submissive relationship. What most people do not fully realize is that a Mistress/slave relationship requires much more trust than any vanilla relationship, because a submissive is putting his/her physical and mental safety in the hands of a Dominant.. Hence the emotional intimacy of a M/s relationship is also much deeper and intense as well.
After the intensity of a long and/or rough play session, a compassionate Sensual Dominant should show a sub a great deal of appreciation and affection for her immense trust and for her gift of submission through sensual "aftercare" to soothe her exhausted body and mind. It is not uncommon for a sub to weep intensely or need to be held for long periods of time after an intense session. Aftercare is how we rejuvenate the emotionally exhaustion of a sub and strengthen the emotional bonds between Dominant and submissive.
i do believe both Dominant and submissive need the aftercare, as any scene/session is quite exhausting to the Dominant as well. It is a sharing time to be there for one another and help each other "come down". A lot of aftercare techniques involve touching. Touching is how we bond emotionally as humans. Makes both feel secure and that the session was not to overwhelming, to far, or to much for any that were involved. Skin on skin contact can calm a person emotionally, therefore help calm both the Dominant and the submissive. Simple cuddles, massages, reassuring words, just holding and soft tender touches go a long way after a long session.
Aftercare is just as important if not more important than the session itself, love. I quite agree. The time to relax emotions and bodies together is a necessity and a pleasure. It solidifies the bond, the trust, the love that is there.
ReplyDeleteTrust is vital to this as well and I agree the trust is much deeper between a D/s or M/s relationship than a vanilla one.